This month we are getting to know Brenda Strough. Brenda became involved with the MS Alliance of Virginia through her acquaintance with Suzanne O’Connell, “….I have so much respect for her (Suzanne). This organization helps me, and I am so proud to be involved. I was there when the MS Alliance started and even before then. I am one of the Ambassadors of our group and love to stay in touch with everyone.”
Brenda was verified with having Multiple Sclerosis at the age of 30, but her encounters with autoimmune illnesses began many years before. “When I was 3, my mother came into my room to dress me for church. I was not breathing, and I was turning blue. At the hospital, I was diagnosed with Rheumatic Fever and a heart murmur. At age 16, I had Mononucleosis, another auto-immune system illness.” For many years after that she kept having MS symptoms such as unexplained balance issues, fainting, excessive nausea, and problems swallowing. Finally, in 1980, UVA Medical Center confirmed that Brenda had Multiple Sclerosis (pre-MRI era) with 9 out of 10 MS symptoms. She was happy to now have an actual diagnosis and remarked, “My doctor said it was not curable, but I was relieved it was not cancer.”.
I asked Brenda if having MS had changed her perspective on life. She said, “Back in the 70’s and 80’s, most doctors put patients on bedrest for MS.” Her neurologist, Dr. James Bennett, was ahead of his time and felt differently. He opted to include regular walking and swimming as a part of her treatment. She goes on to explain, “I don’t feel like a VICTIM at all, and actually, MS has made me stronger.”
I wanted to know what gives Brenda strength on the days when her MS is being a monster. She told me, “I am definitely not as strong as I seem. There are bad days, but by talking with others, I realize I am so blessed and do not try to focus on myself. I also pray. A pastor once said that as we are praying to God for help, God is praying for us.”
About being newly diagnosed, Brenda says, “When you are first diagnosed, please don’t think you are going to die. I have had MS for over 60 years, so this CRAZY illness will not make me kick the bucket. Have courage and try to research and understand your disease, not only for yourself, but for others in your family. Also, do Physical Therapy at least 2 times a week and have counseling, because you need a professional to help you understand what you are going through.”
When I invited Brenda to share something that would instantly make her day better, she explained, “I would love to think that I have helped people over the years to smile (a lot) and to love God more.” I also inquired as to what she would do if she found out today was her last day on earth and she responded, “I would hold tight my friends and my wonderful son, Jonathan.”
In closing, I asked Brenda what her favorite piece of advice on life would be. She told me, “Being 71 now, I know the best advice is to stay positive, love God with all your heart, and love especially those with greater challenges.”